Android Apps for Kids

I’ve been meaning for some time to post a quick summary of apps my son has enjoyed. I’ve grouped them roughly by the age group he liked them at. This isn’t meant to be comprehensive by any means, it’s just a few apps we like.

Pre-School

  • Nearly every game by Intellijoy: our absolute favourites and my son’s staple games at this age.
  • Baby Piano
  • I Just Forgot – a nice story that will read itself out loud, so good for non- or early readers.
  • Juno Junior – this is a fantastic story/game based on learning about music.
  • Montessori Words – great for a child just starting phonics.

Reception

Key Stage 1 (Years 1-2)

  • Camera MX – my Nexus doesn’t seem to have a decent camera app, but this worked well.
  • Enjoy Learning Addition, Enjoy Learning Multiplication – select the right numbers to get the total. A fun game, and beautiful design.
  • Enjoy Learning Anatomy, Enjoy Learning World Map – again, beautiful apps. These are jigsaw-based games to learn the parts of the body (bones and organs) and the countries of the world. There are others: maps of Japan, France, US, Germany.
  • Google Play Music, and Amazon MP3 – in Year One, my son has got really into pop music, and loves being able to carry his music around on the tablet to listen to.
  • Dinosaur Chess – this is a great game, as it’s fun to play and also explains the rules of chess. If you have a child who likes to do everything themselves, this lets them learn chess independently.
  • Squeebles Addition – this gives points for doing add/subtract questions that you can trade in for upgraded carts and turns at a racing game. It’s actually motivated my son to do maths practice. There’s also a Squeebles spelling app, which we haven’t tried yet.

Gove’s Education Policies – explained by their inventor

I’ve tried reading Dominic Cumming’s rather long-winded apologia for his education opinions. He’s now apparently off to set up a free school to try out his ideas in the real world.

I’m reminded of something I read about John Nash (I can’t find the reference just now). When he was asked how someone as intelligent as him could ever have believed his paranoid delusions, he replied that they had come from exactly the same part of his mind that had produced the ideas that won him a Nobel prize.

It’s always very important, when you have come up with a beautiful theory, to go back and sanity-check it against whatever evidence is available.

The link to the Guardian article is here, or you can read Cumming’s own article here.

Incidentally, this also exposes very clearly the logic behind Gove’s education reforms.

  • Don’t waste money educating the lower end of society as they’re genetically inferior.
  • Scrap state education, all schools should be run privately.
  • Scrap state oversight of education, including teacher training.
  • Make students work harder, the lazy layabouts.

Things to Remember on a “Bad Mummy” Day

I just started writing down a few things that I need to remember when I’m having a “bad mummy” day. You know the days, right? You’ve had argument after argument. You realise you forgot to wash their school jumper and it still has dinner down the front. Or any of a thousand variations on those themes.

These are the things I should remember to stay sane on those days. Other suggestions are welcome! 🙂

  • It is possible to do “being a parent” wrong. It is not possible to do “being a child” wrong. If I need my child’s behaviour to change, then it has to start with my behaviour changing.
  • Even if I’m doing everything right, I will still have arguments with my child. In fact, if I’m never arguing with my child, I’m almost certainly doing something wrong.
  • It is not possible to do everything right.
  • “Quality time” is not about educational activities, it’s about focusing on my child. I need to put away my phone, my blackberry, my worries, my expectations, and pay attention to what my child wants to tell me.
  • The only way to be a sane parent is to look after myself as well as my child. Plus, my child needs to know that other people have needs too.
  • There is no such thing as “all my work being done”. That is equally true of my job and the housework.
  • Whatever I do, someone will disapprove, and someone else will know a better way. Several of these people will be in my own family. I’m still entitled to make my own choices.
  • The best moments ever aren’t the ones I planned. They’re the ones when I just suddenly notice how incredibly lucky I am. I need to leave time to do that.

And, above all:

  • There is no such thing as a perfect mummy. There will always be “bad mummy” days. And my child will be just fine anyway.

Ten Things You Need To Teach Your Child (That Won’t Help Them At School)

Trying to bring up a child is a learning curve. There’s always something new you stumble across that you hadn’t foreseen. And you learn as much yourself as your child does. One thing I’ve found out is all the gaps in my own education. So here are ten things that you should definitely teach your child – none of them academic. (Although actually, some of them might still help at school).

1. Eating Healthily – Nutrition and Meal Planning
Sometime during my childhood, ready meals became popular. Instead of my mum having to prepare meals from scratch, she could take a packet out of the freezer, pop it into the oven, and a short while later: dinner! No need to plan ahead, just pick whatever you fancy from the freezer drawer.

Great news for working mums. Lousy news for kids like me, who grew up without any real idea of what was in our food or of what we need to eat. The labelling on the food packets is no substitute, even if you have the Maths degree necessary to translate the percentages into some meaningful info about whether the food is healthy. (I do, actually).

Do your kid a favour, and draw up actual meal plans with them weekly. Help them to understand what makes up a balanced diet. Every week, so it becomes second nature. A one-off lesson isn’t a substitute for learning good habits. (That goes for all the tips on this page). You could save your child years of weight loss diets and heartache.

2. Being Tidy – Tidying, Cleaning, Washing, Ironing
I’m not sure if this one is general, or just me. Having a mum who worked and tried to do the housework meant that she just cleaned up as quickly as she could around the family. I noticed myself trying to do the same thing. Unfortunately, that means I’m not letting my child get involved or learn good habits.

If you’re working and raising a family, you need to fit a lot of tasks into a small time, but don’t let your children miss out on learning the skills they’ll need when they grow up. Get them involved in helping you tidy, helping you wash up sometimes, helping you hang up washing. As they get older, make sure they do chores. One day, when they leave home, their future housemates will thank you!

3. Budgeting and Personal Finance
We all know that our child needs good maths and english ability to do well at school. But a lot of people leave school able to do maths, but paralysed with fear about managing their own finances. For years, I was one of them – and I have a maths degree!

Help your child understand how they can use maths in the real world. Teach them the other skills that they need to manage their finances. Tell them about budgets, about how costs can go up and down, about allowing for costs that are monthly, weekly, annual or termly. Let them know about the economy, about banks, pensions, insurance and financial advisors. Explain basic accounting, and show them how to use some software. Tell them about reconciling their actual outgoings against what they expected, and looking at the differences. Heck, tell them about con-men and common scams.

Is this really boring? Well, it can be. But it could save them from some very nasty shocks later in life. If you tell kids about your own experiences or relate the tasks to their lives, it could even be interesting. And don’t you want your children to be financially savvy when they grow up – if only so they’ll move out?

4. Reading – and Source Awareness
Okay, so your child’s school will teach him or her to read. If your child picks the right subjects, they might learn – in their teens – about considering the source of what they’re reading. But by then they’ll already have been exposed to thousands of ads, publicity, interviews, news articles, gossip pieces and goodness knows what else.

It’s never too soon to start gently inoculating your child’s mind by encouraging them to understand who wrote the information they’re seeing and what that person wants. Your child will develop these skills to some extent anyway, learning to understand perspective and other people’s points of view. But you can help them a lot by asking the right questions.

If you do it right, our children might even elect a decent government!

5. How To Cook
Yes, this is different from #1. Shame on you for even asking. But yes, the cause is the same – ready meals. I learned most of my cooking abilities in my 30s, having got by until then with knowing how to use a microwave or oven to heat up packets. It was only when my child was born, and I started trying to feed him a balanced diet, that I bothered to pick up the skills I needed to make a meal myself.

Why does it matter? Why not just choose a balanced diet from the meals available in the supermarket’s frozen aisle? Well, because I’m afraid it’s nearly impossible to get a balanced diet from them. Apart from the known problems of being high in salt, sugar and fat, ready meals are also often ‘padded’ with wheat flour or milk powder to make them cheaper. Decent quality meat and vegetables would cost more.

The good news is that once you’ve mastered a few basic skills, cooking is not too hard. Kids like easy food anyway. Let them help make it! My own child was so proud of making fish fingers for tea, that I didn’t even get any arguments about eating them up!

6. Negotiation
If you have several children, they’ll probably get a fair amount of practice at this. If they’re not hitting each other all the time, they’ve probably picked up negotiation skills. If you’ve got only one child, though, you’ll need to help out a bit more.

Give your child a chance to negotiate with you. You don’t have to relax discipline a lot – enforce bedtime, but leave some room to allow the ‘5 minutes more’ or ‘one more story’ without things getting completely out of control. Talk about what you both want and why, and try to find common ground. Trade off wins today against gains tomorrow. Have fun.

I have to say, I find this the trickiest skill of all – because I was brought up quite strictly to do as I was told, whereas my child is excellent at negotiating with me. I have to keep honing my own skills to keep up!

7. Anger Management
If you have serious anger management problems, you should seek professional advice to manage them – anger can be overwhelming. But even the calmest of us, faced with a red-faced, screamingly-unreasonable toddler, can discover that our anger management skills are less good than we thought. What do you do? Take a deep breath? Change the subject? Insist on getting your own way?

The “right” answer depends on the context, and different people will have different answers. But whatever you’re doing – believe me, your child will be watching and learning. Anger management is one of the skills we’re rarely taught, and we usually pick up from those around us. This is one of those times you really have to “walk the talk”.

Take a few minutes today to notice how you behave when you’re challenged – and whether you’re setting the example you hope your kids will follow. You might be surprised what you see yourself doing!

8. Being Active and Exercising
Okay, be honest. Do you like exercise? What kind? Do you play football, or just watch it on TV? Do you go to the gym? Do you enjoy it?

I was always a classic bookworm when I was younger, and I still haven’t really got into the habit of enjoying exercise. But I do know that when I do exercise regularly, I feel a whole lot better in so many ways. And I know that my child is too young to have “learned” that exercise is unpleasant, so he spends as much time as he possibly can running around, jumping, climbing and stretching.

So, as I see it, my job is simple. Don’t get in the way of my child’s natural desire to be active. Give plenty of opportunity. Don’t let the fact that I hate exercise communicate itself to him. Easy? Well – no. Hard work. But that’s what’s required.

9. Planning
A bit more abstract, this one. You can (and should) cover planning in some of the other points above. Like meal planning, financial planning. But planning is a generalized skill, that you can use in many ways. Try to help your child understand:

  • predicting the future based on what’s happened before
  • understanding how likely it is that you’ll be right/wrong – and which areas are most risky
  • dependencies between different things, and how that changes what could happen
  • making sensible decisions about what to do based on the most likely outcomes
  • having contingency plans for when things change
  • checking how things are progressing, and whether you need to change what you’re doing
  • going back afterwards to see how good your plan was, and learning to do better next time

10. Making Friends
You’d think this was easy, right? But fewer people these days live in close-knit communities, or know lots of families around them. Even if you know everyone where you are now, your chances of having to move at some time are high.

If you can help your child have the confidence and skills to make friends, change friends, keep friends, and keep in touch with absent friends, you’ll be giving them a skill that will help them for their entire life. It will make them more likely to be successful, and more likely to be happy.

What more could they ask?

Parenting Skills, People Skills

I’ve been reading a parenting book, as my son is going through the stage commonly known as the ‘terrible twos’. I’d noticed that he behaved worst when I was cross or tired, and suspected that the problem was with me not him… Lo and behold, one parenting book later I was confirmed right – and also reminded to go easy on myself as I was only human. Excellent.

I got to pondering how much of the advice is really specific to children, and how much is generally useful. The key elements are praise, listening, giving consistent feedback, respecting opinions, showing empathy even when saying no, and having the confidence to lay down your own rules and hold to them. They all sound like transferrable skills to me.

I have a sneaking suspicion that if I’d read the parenting book when I was a teenager, my life now would be quite different. And yet in the assorted books I’ve read or courses I’ve taken about people skills and assertiveness, no-one has ever given such clear, practical advice. I wonder why?

The book, for anyone who’s interested, is here, and I cannot recommend it enough.
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